Our Healing Philosophy
At Healed Black Girl, we believe healing isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. It’s layered, cyclical, deeply personal, and sometimes, communal. This is our healing philosophy—a guide to what healing can look like when it’s rooted in self-trust, softness, and truth.
Healing begins solo.
The first phase of healing is often inward. You have to quiet the noise—turn down the outside voices, shut off the distractions, and go inward. That solitude is sacred.
Because the reality is a lot of what led to the need for healing came from others—what they projected onto you, what they expected from you, what they said about you, and what they denied you. Over time, we start internalizing all of it: their desires, their worldviews, their definitions of worth—and try to make it fit.
But it doesn’t.
That’s why healing needs to start with you. Alone. So you can hear yourself again—clearly and honestly. That silence is where your real voice lives. And the more you listen to it, the louder it gets. That’s where your most authentic self starts to return—the version of you that isn’t performing for anyone.
Reparent yourself.
If you’re healing childhood wounds, this part is essential.
Reparenting is the practice of nurturing the little version of you who didn’t get what she needed. For some of us, that means giving ourselves the validation we craved. Telling ourselves “I’m proud of you,” and “You’re doing amazing,” and meaning it.
Reparenting also means giving your inner child the life she dreamed about (within reason, of course). Maybe it’s a certain kind of apartment, a solo vacation, or a soft morning routine she never had. Whatever it is—give her that joy. She deserves it. And so do you.
Healing is multidimensional.
There is no one way to heal. Why? Because we carry many wounds—and not all of them are conscious. Some are buried deep.
Healing has to meet you in different ways, on different days. It might look like:
• Going to therapy
• Sitting in silence
• Meditating
• A long walk in nature
• Laughing with your friends over lunch
• Dancing (in class or in your room)
• Playing or listening to music
• Painting or writing
• Nourishing your body with good food
• Stretching or moving your body with love
• Trying something new, just for fun
It’s not about checking a box. It’s about reconnecting with yourself—deeply. About finding peace, clarity, or even just one breath of relief.
Healing is lifelong.
The wounds we carry run deep—and to live is to suffer, which means the need for healing doesn’t just disappear.
But not every wound will weigh the same.
The goal isn’t to avoid pain forever. The goal is to build your capacity. To know when you’re hurting, why you’re hurting, and how to move toward your healing faster and with more clarity than before. That’s growth.
Healing is layered.
It unfolds in stages, like peeling back layers of cloth. You might start with childhood wounds—or you might start with what’s fresh and recent. Either way, you’ll start to notice that healing one part of yourself often reveals another part that needs attention too.
And if you stay on the journey long enough, you’ll probably experience something deeper: a spiritual awakening.
It might shake you. It might change you. But it’s part of the process too. And on the other side of that? A sense of peace you never imagined.
Healing takes a village.
You’ll need more than one guide along the way. And they won’t all have formal titles.
Your therapist is a healer.
Your friend who sees the real you is a healer.
So is the yoga teacher who reminds you to breathe… the artist whose words crack your heart open… the elder who speaks truth without judgment.
Healing happens in community. It happens in conversation. It happens in energy exchanges and soul-nudges.
Anyone who helps you become more you—more free, more whole, more rested—is a healer, whether they know it or not.
Healing is painful, lonely, scary, and intense.
There’s no sugarcoating that. Sometimes it will hurt.
But you’re not doing it wrong—it’s just hard.
Keep going.
Healing is also soft, warm, joyful, and light.
It’s belly laughs.
It’s peace after the storm.
It’s a full exhale.
It’s the moment you realize you're not the same person you used to be.
Keep going.